Person sitting alone in church

Like most people, you probably think what you say on Sunday morning doesn’t make much of a difference. You aren’t the preacher. You don’t lead worship. So, what difference do your words make? If you are like most, you probably think your words matter very little. But if you think that, you are wrong, dead wrong!

Could this have happened at your church?

Debbie and I recently visited a church, and from the parking lot to the auditorium and back to our car again, no one spoke to us. People were gathered in clusters, presumably with friends, talking. But no one looked our way. 

Entering the building, we saw one guy holding a handful of bulletins. He was so busy talking he didn’t notice us, the guests, until I reached out to him. He jumped with a start, fumbling to peel off a single program. He was so consumed with doing his job, giving out bulletins, that he never looked up to see my face.

We sat front and center. We didn’t want to miss anything. The service began with clear direction. The songs they sang were worshipful. The message the preacher delivered was true. But I didn’t connect. Me, a Christ-follower, in a room full of Christ-followers, and I felt all alone.

Why guests need to connect with you

I didn’t feel much like worshiping. At first, I chastised myself for my lack of zeal. But then I realized, Maybe it’s not all my fault. We need one another to fully experience God. John, Jesus’ disciple, explained: “We proclaim to you what we ourselves have actually seen and heard so that you may have fellowship with us. And our fellowship is with the Father and with his Son, Jesus Christ.”1

In a tangible way, when we connect with one another, we connect with God the Father and with His Son, Jesus Christ. No wonder I felt disconnected from God. I was not connected to anyone in this church.

It may be the preacher’s job to convince others of the truths of God, but it is the people’s job to connect with others so they can experience the presence of God. The Scriptures tell us, “The tongue can bring death or life.”2

The next time you see someone you don’t know in your church service, you might say something as simple as, “I haven’t met you before. Have you been coming here long?” Or, “I don’t think we’ve met. My name is ______. What’s yours?”

It may be the preacher’s job to convince people of the truths of God, but it is the people’s job to connect with others so they can experience the presence of God.

This Sunday, when you gather for worship, remember your words have the power of life and death. Don’t be dead wrong. Speak words that give life! Whatever you do, say something. Your words matter.

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  1. 1 John 1:3
  2. Proverbs 18:21 (NLT)